Queen or commoner ? Knowing that your rightful place in the world is above and apart from the crowd

You don't want to be a commoner. Even if you were not to the manor born, you find you have an aristocratic way of seeing and carrying yourself. You value exception and uniqueness over conformity.

You agree that we are all born equal but you know, from turning a realistic eye towards the world, that we are not equal in privileges and agency.

You recognize that there are people who are superior and people who are inferior, whether in status, ability, contribution to the world, intelligence, positive influence, etc.

Witnessing that some individuals with distinctive attributes have influence or authority that is greater than that of others, you want to acquire and develop those attributes. You have an elitist mindset.

You know that in order to gain sovereignty you'll need to stand apart and elevate yourself from the ruled class: the commoners.

For you,being part of the ruling class as a queen is about having control and agency over your circumstances, environment and relationships, it's not about an hereditary right to rule over others.

 

It's about having the power to dictate your circumstances and obtain positive results in the areas of achievement, satisfaction and personal success.

You want to be in a state of queenship so that you reign over your life,navigate the modern world and inhabit your reality with power ,dignity and fortitude.

The queenship mindset

If you want to reach a state of queenship you need to acquire a queenship mindset .

The key elements of the queenship mindset:

 

• Knowing that your rightful place in the world is above and apart from the crowd  

 

• Believing that having greater power and influence over relationships, circumstances and environment is your regal birthright

 

• Understanding that you can't truly be a ruler if you don't rule over yourself

 

• Valuing respect and influence over being liked and maintaining disempowering relationships

 

• Recognizing that establishing power through violence is not an enlightened or desirable form of sovereignty

Power or empowerment?

Whatever the advances of feminism and the toted about notion of women empowerment, do we, as women, have true agency in our lives?

We might feel empowered to do something but do we have the actual power allowing us to manifest the desired results?

Empowerment is like gas in your car. You might have a full tank of gas that empowers you to move forward but if you can't turn the key in the ignition, you won't go anywhere.

You can feel empowered to ask for a raise but that doesn't mean you will get it. You don't have the power to give yourself that raise if you are not your own boss.

We might have equal rights, on paper, but what about in actuality?

How often do women get jobs as assistants and their male counterparts, who do the exact same job, have a different, more valorizing job title that allows for a bigger salary and advancement?

Forget about feeling empowered, about people, laws and structures supporting you in having more agency, about lip service given in favor of being more powerful.

Forget about all the "rah rah rah" discourse of the women empowerment movement. Forget about girl power and pussy power.

With all due respect to these well – intentioned  movements who allowed great positive change, who holds the power in this world? Men or women?

We theoretically have equal rights but do we live on equal footing with men?

Holding the power means you witness and experience the tangible proof of your power in reality.

It is not about being allowed power it's about having power.

Through attaining and maintaining a state of queenship, you will be able to gain  and subsequently maintain actual power.

It's great to feel empowered but are you in power?

What is a state of queenship?

A state of queenship is a mode of being a queen.

Note that I said being, though acting like a queen certainly is an intrinsic part of being one.

You can fake it until you become it, however you need to understand that queenship is not a coat you put on and off. It has to be an organic, permanent state that you desire to embody.

Are you a natural born ruler who's lost ruling power along the way and wants to gain sovereignty in her life?

Were you raised within the commoner mindset but want queenship to become your natural state of being?

 

Whatever your situation, this blog is a place of power to foster support and elicit conversation away from the disempowering Sex-and-the-City-friendship-style.

There will be no talks about Manolo Blahniks here.

This is a place for women who don't need a specific brand of high heels to have power in their stride.

 

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